Hi, I’m Mary Wagstaff.

I help feminine truth-seekers, wisdom keepers, and intuitive leaders fall in love with unbothered, unapologetic, alcohol-free living—by becoming securely attached women who know when to lead and when to receive. Entering mid-life is a sacred threshold I can help you embrace without the burden of alcohol.

You’re just one decision away from your next quantum leap.
And the best part? I know the route—with the least resistance, the most joy, and an epic playlist to soundtrack your hero’s journey.

YES! You Made It.

You’re not broken, beautiful. You’re evolving.

And no—wine isn’t helping.

The good news is, nothing has gone wrong.

And the only one who needs to understand?

YOU.

If you're here, chances are you’ve been riding a new hormone rollercoaster with a glass of wine in one hand and Google search results in the other.

Mental overload. Brain Fog. Rage that scares you.
And that unshakable feeling like you’re unraveling—but supposed to hold it all together.

This isn’t a breakdown. It’s your Sacred Pause.
A chance to stop the numbing, start the healing, and rewrite the next chapter by remembering who you are and releasing a past version of yourself.

Sobriety Isn’t Just a Verb—It’s a Whole Vibe.

Alcohol? Played out.
It had its moment in the spotlight, but now it’s your turn to shine—to get your groove back and beyond.
(And yes, we’re going heavy on the glitter.)

FREE GUIDE: 60 Second Urge Codes
 Find relief in less time than it takes to pour a drink.

Whether you want to scream, scroll, retreat, or reach for a glass — your urges aren’t wrong. They’re just signals from a nervous system that’s had enough.

This free guide gives you 6 powerful phrases you can use in the moment to:
✨ End the emotional tug-of-war
✨ Get off the mental merry-go-round
✨ Soothe the urge — without abandoning yourself

No overthinking. No judgment. Just 60 seconds back in your power.

Download now & let me know which one lightens the load.

⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

“Mary's work is life-changing.
It was the best gift to me and my family.”

“Before working with Mary, I was tired, depressed and uninspired in life. After Mary, my beliefs have changed. I enjoy life and am excited for each day.

I truly NEVER thought I would be writing this and not having a drink. Somehow, Mary creates a path for you without "clawing" your way through each day without a drink. ”- Ami Private Client

You’re not broken — you’ve just outgrown alcohol.
And chances are, you’re exhausted from trying to figure it out on your own.

If your past attempts at taking a break haven’t stuck, it’s not a willpower problem —
It’s that you’ve been winging it.

The Sacred Pause Method gives you a grounded, intuitive path to release alcohol by reconnecting to your values, your body, and the woman you are right now.

It’s time to support yourself the way you support everyone else —
With love, clarity, and compassion.

You don’t have to do this alone.
That’s why this time will be different.

  • We confront our story with alcohol head-on and learn to bring what we are trying to hide in the dark, into the light. This shift asks us to embrace all the facts of what we are ready to change and allows us to accept and embrace our journey.

  • We explore shifting from our pre-conformed thoughts about alcohol to becoming a curious observer of our personal relationship with alcohol. You will understand your thoughts and triggers on a deeper level. This shift is especially powerful in learning to examine when and why we experience our sensations and emotions and what are the root causes and potential effects of those sensations.

  • Shift 3: Moving from judgment to compassion

    This module is all about cultivating a stronger sense self acceptance, validation, and compassion. We learn to allow and validate our own emotions and journey. This is the opportunity to learn to hold space for you, to allow yourself grace to be seen, heard, and validated so you can release old patterns of resentment and regret.

  • This shift asks that wherever you are in your journey, you are always reevaluating and creating a lasting commitment to self in all areas of life. This module gives us tools to embrace our own self-authority and learn how to recommit to the processes that make us successful.

  • This shift is all about learning to celebrate yourself, how far you've come, and the impact you've already made on your life. This final shift is all about celebrating the transition from the physical and emotional isolation that alcohol has created into a life filled with more love, feeling more joy, and offering yourself and the world more grace.